Another day, another #LoveBlog2017 challenge that I’m hosting! Today’s prompt is “Secrets.” Check out Brita’s introduction post to see the rules and the prompts for each day.
When I ask myself this question, my first reaction is to say absolutely not! Do not keep secrets from your spouse. Honesty is the best policy. It’s the foundation for trust. And trust is necessary for a relationship.
But, are there instances when keeping a secret might actually be beneficial?
Lets look at this.
What about when you’re giving your spouse a gift or surprising him in another way?
Well sure, right? There is no harm in that. The funny part of it is that Pearson cannot do it. I know what he’s getting me for Valentine’s Day because he just couldn’t keep it in anymore.
What about when something happened that he or she wouldn’t like, but it wasn’t exactly your fault?
I have an example from show, Parenthood (remember, I’m addicted). Adam works with an attractive, younger woman and he told her, in a fatherly way, that she doesn’t have to dress the way she does to get attention because she’s smart and has more great qualities than just her looks. She took this the wrong way and kissed him. Adam’s wife had just had a baby and he’d just started this new job which was taking all of his attention, so she was already feeling a little insecure.
Adam’s brother told him not to tell Kristina because she would stew over this for ever. She would be hurt. She would feel even more intimidated by the other women. She would think about the situation all the time. However, Adam would now have a clear conscience and would go about his life feeling really good about himself. It sounds like a great point, doesn’t it?
Well, Adam ended up telling Kristina and it was bad at first. She was crushed. She asked him to fire the coworker (which he didn’t and then lied about but that’s another story). Everything was a disaster but not for very long. Kristina got over it eventually. She forgave Adam. She forgave the coworker. And the marriage was stronger because of it.
What if you do something to break trust?
So just be honest. Build the trust. It will pay off in the long run.
What do you think? Are there any instances where it’s okay to keep secrets from your spouse?
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