Last week, I blogged about 5 Reasons you Struggle to find Time for your Spouse. Today, I want to talk about why it’s important to find time for your spouse because I think it’s one of the most important and helpful things you can do for your marriage. And people let it slip through the cracks so often because we’re so busy and our minds are on other things! So, I give you 5 reasons why finding time for your spouse is important!
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- It gives you a chance to reconnect
Do you ever feel like you haven’t seen your husband in days and you have no idea what’s new with him? I have. Or maybe you realize you haven’t told him something big that happened several days or even weeks ago! That’s happened to me! Pearson works a lot so things slip through the cracks. But that’s one reason why it’s important to find time to reconnect. I hate feeling disconnected from him.
- It helps you learn about each other
My word of the year for 2015 was LEARN. I focused that word a lot on my marriage because there is always something new to learn either about your spouse, yourself, or your relationship. People change. Life situations change. New things happen every day. I am constantly learning more about what Pearson likes and doesn’t like and I learn how he reacts to different situations daily. It’s kind of a game. But again, if you don’t take the time to learn about each other, you miss so much!
- It helps you to feel loved
I don’t know about you guys, but I like to know I’m important to my husband. Quality Time is definitely my number one love language and if it’s been a while since we had some quality time together, my love tank starts to feel empty. I can’t say for sure, but I’m willing to bet that even if Quality Time isn’t very high on your list, you can still start to feel unloved if you’re not getting it. It’s all about priority and nobody wants to feel like they’re not a priority to their spouse.
- It helps you grow in your marriage
Just like how it’s important to always be learning about your spouse, it’s also important to always be growing in your marriage. Life happens and things change and if your marriage isn’t growing and changing along the way, you’ll be tempted to leave it behind. But how can you grow together in your marriage if you don’t ever spend any time together? If that’s the case, you’ll most likely be growing in different directions.
- It insures that you don’t wake up next to a stranger one day
You know those couples who say “I just woke up one day and realized I didn’t know him anymore.” That’s always so sad to me because I think it could have been avoided. I want my marriage to last forever, but more than that, I want to feel love for my husband forever. I want us to be best friends forever. The only way to do that is to spend time together and put each other first! I’m sure you’ve experienced growing apart from a friend. Not because you fought or purposely “broke up” for any reason but just because you stopped spending time together and drifted apart. Don’t let that happen to your marriage!
- And one last little nugget of truth for today…
Time is the only thing that we all have the same amount of. Think about it. We all make different salaries. We all have different talents. But God gave us all 24 hours in the day. How my husband spends that time matters more to me then how much money he spends on me or how well he plans a romantic night out or frankly, anything else!
Have you felt disconnected from your spouse? How do you make sure to spend time with your spouse? What more would you add to my list?
Thanks for reading!
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