One of the biggest things I struggle with in my marriage is nagging.
I get upset over the stupidest things and nag Pearson until his ears fall off over something that doesn’t matter.
Then, I realize what I’ve done and I go really far in the other direction. I don’t ask him to help me with anything and I try not to ever bother him in case he sees it as nagging. If we’re being honest, this is the side of it that I fall into more often. And the bad thing is, I’ll start to resent him for not helping or I’ll keep things that bother me bottled up. Then I either explode with anger, or he gets angry at me knowing I’m keeping something from him.
It’s a tough balance. I’ve found that it helps to picture myself as Pearson best friend more than his mother. If I can listen to myself and hear a mother type of tone, I stop. Or at least I try to stop.
After talking about this with other wives and reading about it in a couple books (especially The 5 Love Languages), I’ve collected a few tips to help. And I thought I’d share them with you!
ONE || Know when to share opinions and when to keep them to yourself. There really is a fine line here because if you’re husband is anything like mine, he welcomes your opinions! Pearson doesn’t like it when I keep anything to myself (especially if he can tell I’m not telling him something – I don’t have a good poker face). But sometimes, it’s just better unsaid. It’s not worth nagging him about it. Make the judgement call. Think hard about what you’re going to say and decide if it’s really worth bringing up.
Do you have any tips to add to my list? Anything would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks for reading!
