Since my word for this year is LEARN, I decided it was time for Pearson and I to retake the Love Language Quiz to help me learn how best to love him. If you don’t know, The 5 Love Languages is a book by Gary Chapman which breaks down love into 5 different languages. He says that a husband and wife can both be speaking love to each other in the best way they know how, but neither of them feel loved because they are speaking different languages. The quiz helps identify what love language both you and your spouse speak

Anyway, Pearson and I both took the quiz when we were dating. Then, we took it again in our first year of marriage. We took it for a third time a couple nights ago. Each time, we each got different results.

That’s just one reason why we should learn how to love our spouse through ALL the love languages, not just his or her primary language – or the language we think is his or her primary one. This is also a good reason to constantly be learning about our spouse by paying attention to how they respond to ways we show love and how they show love to us. Our love languages are constantly evolving so our actions should evolve with them.

Please take the quiz. You may be surprised by your spouse’s primary language. And who knows? You may even surprise yourself!

Anyway, I thought I’d share some ideas I’ve come up with to help show your love to your spouse based on each of the 5 love languages. I’ll start with Physical Touch since that is Pearson’s primary language and has been every time he’s taken the quiz.

Let me start by saying that the “physical touch” Gary talks about in the book is non-sexual. Sexual physical touch is another whole topic.

So here are ten ideas to show love to your spouse through Non-Sexual Physical Touch:

1. Greet him at the door and give him a big ol’ hug and kiss when he gets home from work!
2. Always kiss goodbye and goodnight.
3. Kiss in the middle of the afternoon for no reason.
4. Randomly walk up to him and put your arms around him, telling him how he means so much to you.
5. Always hold hands! In church, in the car, at the movies, at dinner, while walking around the mall. The list goes on.
6. Play footsie at dinner.
7. Cuddle on the couch in the evenings.
8. Scratch his back.
9. Massage his back and feet.
10. Put an arm through his arm (or around her shoulders if you’re a guy) in public.